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What’s good?

Or rather what’s the good in posting something if we don’t know where & how much? Damn you, fellow fashion blog, for teasing my eyes!

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Put it in a love song

Here’s a little flashback song dedicated to my honey.

So many times we hear ladies throwing dudes under the bus; talking about there are no good men, all men are dogs and aint about s**t, blah blah blah. Granted there are an abundance of fools out there (there’s an abundance of FEMALE fools as well), I am living proof that not only do good men exist, but they exist quite abundantly. I didn’t “find” one until I 1) resolved some foolish issues that I had and began to truly love and better myself and 2) I STOPPED LOOKING. I have a man in my life who is kind, loving, thoughtful, and my best friend. This is something I haven’t felt before. I’m liking it alot . It’s pretty much like this: you attract what you put out. Put out a sour, self-loathing, unhappy aura- you’ll attract that. Put out an air of love, balance and peace…..you get the picture.

Anyhooooo….this is for you, babe.

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New*New~ Monica “Everything To Me”

Yay!

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iLove

iLove~Kanye West. A lot of people say a lot of things about him, but in my opinion, all I see is a super-creative soul in a mass of regular joes. He’s one of the verrrrry few people who still inspire me to do music. He’s one of the few artists who I’ve purchased ALL their work…I even drive to a store to get the actual CDs because of the album packaging. Even that’s creative.

Although 808s & Heartbreak came out awhile ago, ‘Ye just released a video to a re-vamped version of “Coldest Winter” which was one of my faves on the album. The song had to do with his breakup with fiance Alexis and losing his mother (well, most if not all, of the album had to do with those 2 things), so of course the video is dark. But I think it’s beautiful. Thanks for continuing to be creative and having vision, ‘Ye. I promise I’m soaking it all in.

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Channeling Agyness Deyn

Out of boredom…okay, out of necessity (because sweaty workout hair is NOT the biz)…I took a trip to my neighborhood wig store and bought a new friend. Something like one of the fiercest models

Just a lil’ temporary affair.

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Chicks dress like this now

This was about 13 years ago! Jody was stylin’ on ‘em =)

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Gettin Fine

Maine! Today is day 2 of my “Get Right/Get Tight” situation for this year. I go on stints with fitness. Usually in warmer months I’m quite beastly about my body…I love to look a certain way and so I’m not afraid of a lil sweat to achieve it! Then around the holidays, when it gets cold, I usually fall back and tend to gain a lil weight. My personal deal with myself is as long as I don’t get over 150, I can take it. Once I reach 150, wrap-a-roonie…we gotta get it off!

I got there and since I’ve got some pending greatness on the horizon I decided it was time to get back in with a trainer and jumpstart the process. Let me tell you-taking a 5 month hiatus from working out was a dumb idea. I. AM. BEAT!!! Jeeeeesus be a fence! But I’m already familiar with the outcome, so I might be dragging the next few days, but I’m all in. I’ma make this year my finest one yet! Mmmmhmmmm.

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Candy Coated Goodness

Luuuuvin’ this spread from W Magazine titled Art and Commerce. Styling is dope. Photography’s dope. And the blonde model is serving! More inspiration…it’s always a good thing.

MY FAVE!

(Photographed by Inez van Lamsweerde and Vinoodh Matadin. Styled by Alex White)

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It’s an epidemic!

Ok, ladies. Enough is enough!!! I keep hearing, reading and seeing too many tales of “situations” gone wrong with guys. Then the female is left standing alone like…

…and wondering what went wrong. Hmmm. Now I am by no means a relationship expert, but I DO think I do pretty okay in that arena. And it doesn’t hurt that I was raised by my dad, so I was hipped to a little bit’o game So here are a few surefire ways I think will ruin your chances with most any guy. I’m guilty of one…or two.

1) Giving it up too fast.
This is kinda a no-brainer. The initial thrill is in the chase, so if you end the chase in a matter of hours or a few days, you’re no longer exciting. It’s like, “Okay, next game!” Game usually meaning chick. Now of course, there are some exceptions (I’ve never personally seen one, but I suppose there’s a happily married couple somewhere in the world who got it poppin’ of top), but I think for the most part, it’s a no-no. No cooch. No head. No nothing. If it’s worth something, he should probably have to work a little, no? (Plus-if he DOES like you, you may end up with a psycho! Get to know something about each other!)

2) Nagging.
Who in the world likes a nag?!?!?! Chicks don’t even like a nagging female, so you KNOW a man won’t! Trust that being on his ass about every little thing will do absolutely nothing but push a guy away. “Why you aint call me?!” “I thought you said you’d call in 5 minutes!” “Who else is with you?” “Why you always gotta be working?” “When are we making this official?!” “Who is this b**ch on your Facebook/Twitter?!” “What that hoe got over me?!” STFU.

3) Going too hard.
Um, didn’t ya know it’s the man’s job to pursue? Fall back, shawty. We may hold the ultimate card when it comes to whether or not sex happens, but the man “chooses” his mate. If it’s the other way around, you may “force” a man into something he doesn’t want to be in. And that rarely works. (Babe hipped me to this tidbit of info )

4) Being too available.
When you’re in a relationship, I think a woman should be everything for her man. (This is a new concept for me, lol!). But the key word is RELATIONSHIP. You know the saying “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” Yeah. Most of us (me included) already do things we shouldn’t (i.e. pre-marital relations), but being in full wife mode without a ring? Most men will take it for granted. Not all, but I think most will. If you’ll be his everything with no strings attached while he’s “doing him” you’re completely playing yourself. I’m all for being nice and caring, but there has to be something to look forward to.

5) LOW. SELF. ESTEEM.
I think dudes can smell it in the same way that dogs can smell fear. And some dudes will willingly take advantage of it. They know they can treat you any type way and you’ll be there. They can keep you at position #2, 3, or 4 and you’ll still be there. Make it CLEAR that you not only deserve respect, but you demand it. Accept nothing less and guess what…you’ll be respected! It’s not rocket science.

Love yourself and love will come. It might take awhile, but it’ll come. We gotta end this epidemic, though! Unhealthy relationships with men/women are so yesteryear. Let it goooooo!

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I loooooove Gaga, but….

…I’m getting a little scared.

This is her at The Brit Awards. Mmkay, Stefani. You still rock, though.