Once upon a time, I had a friend who I’d share goals and dreams with. We both came from the same small city, with the same short-sighted peers, and were considered “hot girls.” In short, I thought if anybody got me, it’d be her. I would always talk about how I was gonna make music my career and my life. I’d planned on making a big name for myself and traveling the world. I said I wanted to live in every major city in the US (LA, NYC, Miami) before I settled down. You know, gypsy-dreamin’ ish She’d listen, smile and agree that sounded like the life. Everyone knew I was into accomplishing this music goal, but she knew the specifics of my dreams.
One day I overheard her talking to a mutual friend of ours. The mutual friend asked, “So is Mylah still moving to Atlanta?” My friends responded with something to this effect, “Who knows?! You know she always talking about doing shit. She probably aint gonna do nothing.”
My first reaction was I wanted to bust in and bust her in her teeth. I’d never really had anyone doubt me. My parents did a superb job of encouraging all that I did, and even in school, sports, w/boys, etc, I always excelled. So for my girl to just blatantly shoot down the idea that I was gonna get what I said I wanted out of life….it angered me. I never said anything about it to her & she never knew that I was aware of what she said. But there was definitely a shift in our relationship because I felt some sort of way. It was an eye opener.
I still carry that feeling with me. I’ve tweeted it before and talk about it often…I don’t keep certain energy around me. If it isn’t good for me, beneficial to me, or uplifting to my spirit and well-being, buh-bye! No mediocre people. No half-ass situations. No negative energy. I like to try and surround myself with greatness. People who are doing what they do better than I can do…that way I can learn from them and look at their successes, tweaking what I’m doing so that I can achieve that level of accomplishment. As the saying goes, iron sharpens iron. So why would I want to be around rusty, broken, useless metals? I don’t. Hell, I refuse to! I know faaaaaaar too many people who, because of their surroundings, haven’t met their full potential. No thanks. I don’t want to learn that lesson by going through it. All I have to do is look at the lives of so many that I know.
I won’t say that that old friend is a failure. She may be the most successful bish walking by her standards. Whatever people want out of life is cool…..it’s their life. But I will say I wouldn’t want what she has. I’m well on the way to getting all the things I used to talk about. (I firmly believe in speaking things into existence!) I’m doing what I love. I’ve traveled. I’ve lived in those cities I talked about (well, extended stay in LA…chick did NOT want to live there once I got there, lol). I’ve worked with writers and producers that I affirmed I would work with. I’ve had experiences that most of my schoolmates couldn’t even understand, and I’ve loved it all. Some people would have taken that comment and internalized the doubt, saying to themself, “Yeah, maybe that is a lofty goal. Maybe I should just be safe about this life.” That’s the bullshit. No great accomplishment in the history of the world has been gained by taking the safe route. ‘Least I don’t think so!
Even with hard times, I have no regrets because I feel I’m living out my dreams, and that’s the biggest accomplishment to date for me So to quote my fave, Kanye, here’s this:
Now I can let these dream killers kill my self esteem or use my arrogance as steam to power my dream
You aint gotta necessarily be arrogant, but never, eva eva evvvvvvah let anyone say what you can/cannot, will/will not do!!! Get up and TAKE your dreams!
So, last night I went to Tongue & Groove for an alleged Betsey Johnson fashion show. I was a little skeptical because Monday nights at T&G are hip hop parties and I didn’t see how Betsey’s fashions and the slightly hood crowd meshed. But I decided to give it a go because I didn’t want to stay in the house.
Me and Tae put on some fashionista gear (loud beat, long lashes, sexy clothes) and headed on down there. Um….all I can say is NICE TRY, Tongue & Groove. Ish didn’t even start til 1am, the announcer kept on saying “This is Betsey Johnson Fall 2010…” [Scuze me, mister. We won't be seeing Fall 2010 fashions from anyone until Spring time 2010. That's how that whole Fashion Week/showing thing works.]
Anywhooo…clearly someone must’ve simply pulled a belt, a bow and a bra from the Betsey store at Lenox, while everything else was from everyplace else. I even looked online at the Fall ‘09 stuff to see if I recognized anything.
This is the Betsey Johnson vibe...
Wait…I did see these leggings last night…
But other than that? Nada. Overall, boooooo. Ms Johnson would not approve! Lol, but I got a nice lil buzz out of it and a superb nightcap (teehee ) so all’s well that ends well. Here’s a few flicks.
This is a song I’ve allllllwaaaaays wanted to cover. I’m sure one day, I will It’s “Head Over Feet” by Alanis Morissette. She is one of my favorite singer/songwriters and she, along with Faith Evans, (I know…they’re 2 totally different things!) is one of the main reasons why I even got interested in writing in the first place. Jagged Little Pill is still one of my favorite & most listened to albums to this day. I may have posted the video for this song before, but this is a live, acoustic version. Enjoy.
Hi. My name is Mylah & I’m a recovering tomboy. I like pretty makeup, live for lashes, and rock a 4+ heel often, but at my core, I’m still pretty un-frilly. So now that I’m setting myself up to get a new car this coming year, I’ve been kinda looking around. I thought about sensible. I thought about cute. I decided to set my sights on a car I’ve always wanted, though. A tough looking muscle car! More specifically, this 2010 Ford Mustang.
YUMMMMMMMMM!!! Imagine some long legs in a sick stiletto’d boot stepping out of this pretty thang! Yeah, buddy. Let me get on this STAT.
I’m actually loving this track “Forever” featuring Drake, Kanye, Wayne & Eminem. This is off of the Lebron James More Than A Game project. I can dig it.
I was sitting and eating with some friends the other day, and the subject of “she’s a whore” came up when one of the dudes started talking about a certain young lady. One of my female friends asked him why the girl was a whore, and he went into his explanation. “She’s a freak, she sleeps with randoms, she was letting me touch all on her…”
I’ve always wondered, though, what does exactly constitute a chick being a hoe? I mean, is it the quantity of guys that she’s slept with? That she’s “messed with?” Is it the quality of the dudes? Is it how sexually uninhibited she is behind closed doors? Is it how she acts, walks, talks, carries herself? Some girls get called a hoe just because she does videos. Hmmm. Some are called hoes because they choose to give play to one dude over another. :p I just hear that word tossed around so easily.
One of my other guy friends who wasn’t in on this particular convo once said that girls define “whore” in any way that would exclude them from the category (lol). I don’t know if I agree with that, but uhhhh….I guess my version of it-dumbed down, of course- is a chick who has no discretion of who she sleeps with. If she can get money for it, cool. If she gets a dinner for it, cool. Drinks, VIP entry into the hot club, a little “shine?” Cool. It don’t matter if the dude cares about her, sluts her out, or is known to play every chick around her, she doesn’t have the self-esteem to even care. As long as she gets a little attention. I could go more in-depth, but as I said, this is my dumbed down definition.
Quantity doesn’t exactly say a whoooole lot (I mean, sleeping with 100 dudes is not what’s up, but, you know what I’m saying) but that seems to be what alot of people think. Being “a freak” also doesn’t mean much to me either. I would think that’d be a positive (lol) unless she’s sharing it with the world all the time and anytime.
What do yall think? What would qualify a girl as a whore in your opinion?
Posted: September 20, 2009 at 6:49 pm | Tags: Beyonce
Beyonce’s such a beautiful spirit. Here she is singing to one of her fans in Australia who is living with cancer. This definitely made me tear up. (via www.concreteloop.com)
Posted: September 18, 2009 at 10:43 pm | Tags: fashion week 10
I really tried to do a nightly update on the shows at Spring 2010 Fashion Week. Mmmkay, maybe I only kinda tried. Whatevs If you really were into it, you’d have logged onto www.mbfashionweek.com yourself and saw what was poppin’ in Bryant Park, right? I did do that. Well, anywhoo, here are the rest of the things that I liked. Clothes are so yummy!
She’d listen, smile and agree that sounded like the life. Everyone knew I was into accomplishing this music goal, but she knew the specifics of my dreams.
) so all’s well that ends well. Here’s a few flicks.
